What If It’s A Surrender Problem?
Letting Go Of what You Can’t Control
“God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.”
Today’s post is for anyone who’s having a difficult time surrendering or letting go. This is for the person who is still trying to control their own narrative… or the narrative of someone they love. This is for the person who’s been spinning their wheels for months, or maybe even years only to be disappointed that life still isn’t what or how you’ve pictured it to be, and you’ve been left with only one question… Why?
If this sounds like you — travel with me to a place of surrender. Today we’re going to uncover the reason why trying to control people, things, or situations will never work out. We’re going to discuss exactly what needs to happen when we find ourselves in situations that we so badly want to control, and today my friend… we are going to truly learn how to let go, and let God because, maybe the very area of your life that you’ve been asking God for deliverance from or transformation/change within is the very area that you have yet to let go of… the very area that you have yet to surrender to God.
Let me just ask you a few simple questions:
What are you still holding onto?
What or better yet, WHO are you still trying to control?
Power does not lie in controlling others. In fact, that’s not our job, and it’s not what we were put on this earth to do. Seeking control of a person’s actions will never yield the results that you desire, or at least not long term. If you truly love someone or something, you would not seek to control it. True and lasting changes can only come from God, and they require the individual to do the necessary work on themselves. They first have to see an issue with their behavior. They first have to truly feel the impact of their actions. Your nagging or use of manipulation to control the outcome will never work — no matter how long you do it, no matter how hard you try.
True love isn’t controlling, and it does not manipulate to get it's way…
1 Corinthians 13:4–8 | Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never ends.
True power lies in praying for and surrendering to God — whatever that “it” is. Whether it’s a person or a situation, you have to let go and trust that God will work things out according to His divine plan. I’m only telling you this because I’ve been there. Trying to control my own narrative and those that I loved dearly. I felt that if I talked about it enough or expressed my concerns enough that they would just wake up one day and “get it”. But, what I failed to do time and time again was, surrender. I failed to relinquish the control that I honestly never had in the first place; hence why nothing I did had ever worked or resulted in lasting change.
It wasn’t until I fully surrendered EVERYTHING to God. It wasn’t until I let go of the need to control, focused my energy on self and my own growth and healing, and took a good look in the mirror. I had to acknowledge the things in me that were not healed, the behaviors that were not okay, and finally being woman enough to admit that I truly was not the person that I thought I was.
It was in those moments where I realized that I needed to let go of some things in order to become the woman who God had intended me to be all along. My future depended on my healing. My job was to surrender, and God’s job was to begin showing me that He never needed my help to change anybody else or anything else.
My surrender was enough. Enough for me to begin to see God radically transform and change the very things, the very people that I had tried to control for years.
I was never the answer. God was… and He always will be.
So, I’ll ask you those same questions again…
What are you still holding onto? What or better yet, WHO are you still trying to control? Is it a relationship — boyfriend, girlfriend, spouse? Is it your adult children?
I want to encourage you to allow God the opportunity to do what only He can do. It is only He who truly has the power to transform and bring life out of the dry and dead places of your life and those you love most. Release it all to Him. He is able to do far more with it than you’ll ever be able to do in your own strength. Today I encourage you to surrender it all to the Most High God, and watch what begins to happen.
I truly believe that the act of surrendering is the first step. It allows your faith and belief to take root so that God can then begin to bring forth a harvest that is far beyond your wildest imagination.
In 2024 — let it go. Whatever “it” is for you. Just… release it. Surrender it to God, and watch how His mighty hand begins to work in your life and the life of those that you love.
Let go of what you can’t control, so that God can take control, and do what only He can.
All my love,
Amari E.